One of the biggest challenges many single women face is how to begin a conversation with someone new. Perhaps it’s been awhile since you’ve even met someone new, so let’s start there.
In this article, I'm going to give you 7 places where you can meet men and then provide you with some added tips to help discover the right places to meet men that are compatible for you.
Because let's face it, most people repel the idea of meeting a long-term partner at a club or bar although we know that some people do.
We don't see them as the best places for meeting long-term potential partners.
So these will be slightly different to that scene but I recommend that you give at least one of these 7 places to meet men a good try.
They may or may not meet your individual tastes entirely but it's a start and once you start it will become a lot more apparent where the right places to meet men are for you.
So here are some great places to meet men:
- Attend Bookclubs.
- Join a Online Dating Site.
- Attend a Local Speed Dating or Singles Events.
- Visit Comedy Shows In Town.
- Take up a New Class In Language, Dance, Acting Etc.
- Art Exhibitions & Museums.
- Sign up at Meetup.com and Join Groups of Interest and Attend Meet-ups & Networking Events.
How to Discover The Best Places to Meet the Right Men For You.
There are two basic approaches to finding appropriate places to meet men or anyone else for that matter.
The first approach is to start with your own personal interests and hobbies.
Ever heard of the saying:
"When you follow your bliss... doors will open where you would not have thought there would be doors; and where there wouldn't be a door for anyone else."
Well this is true.
If you focus on doing the things you love and enjoy doing and would like to learn and do, you'll achieve two things.
- You'll have fun doing the things you do, you'll learn more new and interesting things that will make your life even more interesting and exciting than what it already is.
- You'll end up meeting different people with similar interests to you who you may never have got to meet had you not followed your bliss including a potential partner or a friend who may introduce you to one.
So let me ask you:
- What interests and hobbies do you have and enjoy doing?
- What interests and hobbies would you like to do but have yet to try?
Asking and answering these questions is really the secret or key to meeting new people and increasing your chances of meeting you Mr. Right.
It also helps you identify the best places to meet men that are right for you.
So don't underestimate the power of following your interests.
It's the best way to meet new and interesting people including potential partners who share similar passions as you.
The second approach, which is best used in combination with the first approach, is to start with the picture of your ideal man.
I always say to people:
"Know what you want before you go out looking for it."
If you've got a good idea about the type of men you want to meet, then you're way ahead of most women out there. If not, I recommend you read this article on how to identify the right man for you.
By starting with your ideal man, you're asking yourself:
- "What would my ideal man, the one I'm interested in meeting, what would he be interested in?"
- "What sort of hobbies would he have, what places would he go to more often than others?"
It's good to ask yourself these questions because men and women tend to be interested in different things for different reasons.
What may interest him may not interest you and vice-versa but it's important to have an open mind towards this possibility too.
Once you figure some out, you should make it your business to go to some of those places.
You don't have to do it for the rest of your life or even the rest of the year, but if you go to the places that men regularly go to, you'll not only stand out, but you'll also come across as a unique woman in the eyes of these men because they don't usually see women in those places.
You're less likely to be viewed as "just another woman" and as an added benefit, you'll have less competition.
You won't be having to compete with other women who are trying to get noticed because there will be so few there.
I remember, in my younger days, I would attend dance and acting classes, attend events where I knew I would likely be in the minority as far as gender was concerned.
I always got interacting and conversing with different women (and guys) was always seen in favourable light because not many men went to these things and the women appreciated the men who were bold enough to do it.
You should try this out because it can help you big time. Not just by meeting men but also help you remove any social anxiety you may have (i.e. shyness, low confidence)
Once you've identified your own interests and hobbies, both the ones you currently like and do and the hobbies and interests you would like to do but have yet to do, then you need to schedule a time, let's say this week or at your earliest convenience and start getting out there more frequently.
You're not going to meet men by sitting in front of the TV or Internet (unless of course it's a dating website) so you do need to put this stuff into right away.
So today, make a list of all the activities, hobbies and interests that you like and would like to do at some point. Aim for at least 10, ideally 20.
Next, identify the activities, interests and hobbies that you can attend the most easiest and readily. Make these your top priorities of places to meet men.
Decide on a day and time when you will do this activity. And then do it regularly. Either weekly or fortnightly. If you're really pressed for time then monthly at an absolute minimum.
If you will do this, (and I hope you will since you want to meet new men, start dating and eventually work towards a relationship), you'll be amazed at what might happen for you.
If you don't feel too confident going on your own, invite a friend to go along with you.
If your friends are busy, don't let that stop you, still go out, you'll meet new people and will be a good experience for you.
It's best to go to places where interaction is built in, especially if you're the shy type of woman who gets nervous at the thought of approaching a man and speaking to him. These places make it much more easier to connect without the negative stigma associated with it.
Set a goal to meet at least 5 new people every week. Why? Well, because if you’re stuck in a routine, you may never get a chance to meet your Mr. Right. Often you need to go to new places and try new things to meet someone you could be really interested in. You never know where he is or where you might meet him.
So, how do you do this? First, think of three men you most admire and ask yourself why you admire them so much. Then try to imagine if these men were single where they would go and what they would do? How could you also be in the places your Mr. Right might naturally be?
For example, if your Mr. Right is a successful business person he is likely interested in business or financial seminars. Can you attend something like this? Perhaps your Mr. Right is someone who likes to travel or who drives a nice car. You could go to a travel expo or car show. If your Mr. Right is physically fit, he could be spending time at the gym working out. Could you be at the gym before or after business hours? Even meeting other women is beneficial because they may know an eligible single man to introduce you to. If you think about where your ideal man might be, you can increase your chances of meeting him.
What is the best way to start a conversation with someone new once you do meet them? I find the very easiest way is to ask a simple, innocuous question. Something like, “Excuse me, do you know the time?” or “Excuse me, have you heard the weather report for this weekend?” A question like this is safe and often creates an opening for further conversation.
You are not coming on to someone by asking a question like this and most people like to feel they are helping you out. You may make a new friend or even find a deeper connection. Are you willing to give it a try?
Source: Michelle Marchant Johnson LoveLifeCoaching.com and dating-tips-that-coach-women.com
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